Are you looking to expand your social network? And is anxiety holding you back?
In truth, you’re anything but alone. As anxiety sufferers, we want to be social. However, social anxiety often gets the best of us.
As a result, we avoid social interaction with new people. Our worlds don’t expand. Instead, they remain the same out of comfort.
As I’ve shared many times, I’ve recently been through a breakup. This has forced me out of my shell. I’ve had no choice but to grow and expand my social horizons.
It’s that or sit home alone. No thank you!
Check out these five keys to expanding your social life in a healthy manner. You’ll be glad you did.
Know that you have to make it happen.
Anxiety doesn’t just disappear. If it did, we wouldn’t be here. If you want to make a change in your social situation, you’ve got to make it happen. In short, you’ve got to step out of your comfort zone and make plans with new people- no matter how terrifying this may feel.
Stop trying to be a rock star.
Be you. Plain and simple. If people don’t like you, it’s their loss. You don’t have to be the next Paris Hilton. All you’ve got to be is you, quirky as that may be. No one said being social equates to perfection. Nothing in life is perfect.
Though it might feel like it, you’re not going to do something absurd that makes you look ridiculous. This is your head talking. Period. Expanding your social life means accepting the discomfort that comes along with doing things with new people. Who knows, they might be nervous too.
Stay in the present moment.
When you commit to unfamiliar social obligations, you’re going to get nervous. We all do. You’ll worry about what MAY happen to the point that you want to cancel. Stay in the present moment. Focus on the task at hand instead of concerns of the future.
Celebrate the positives.
Building a social life is a series of small steps that lead to a bigger goal. Celebrate the positives along the way. If you go to lunch with new friends, commend yourself on a job well done. Small steps will lead to entirely new experiences with people you haven’t even met yet. You’ve got this-you’ve just got to believe in yourself.