I hear it time and time again.
“You’ve done so many things to improve your life. I wish I could do that too.”
Who says you can’t? Chances are you’re the only one limiting yourself. Only you can hold yourself back.
Think about that for a moment.
In truth, you can improve your life too. However, you’ve got to believe that change is possible. If you don’t believe in the ability to change and grow, you’re pretty much screwed.
That, my friend, is a fact.
You see, many people in my personal life reach out to me with concerns that life isn’t moving forward in a positive direction. They hem and haw about the negatives of life as they know it.
In this experience, I see one consistent flaw. There is no underlying belief that life can change.
Blogs and self-help books become the story of what others can do, but not what we can do for ourselves. Instead, unhappiness and anxiety become a reality that seems insurmountable.
Today, I’m going to give you a little tough love. (I’m nothing if not tough.) Quite frankly, this is most flawed belief system that you can adopt.
Sure, I can tell you all about how my life has changed. In fact, I can do this til you’re blue in the face. However, I can’t change YOUR life.
Only you can change your reality.
You can take what I say. You can learn from me. And you can adopt some of my approaches.
However, you also have to find the approach that works for you.
The truth of the matter is that change can only happen by taking risks. Sometimes you’re going to succeed; and other times you’re going to fail. (That’s the beauty of life!)
But if you don’t take any steps to change your life, it will only remain the same.
One year from now, you’ll still be stuck in the throes of anxiety and unhappiness- just like you are today. You’ll look back at every blog and self-help book that you’ve read wondering why your life isn’t somehow better.
Who wants that? (That’s not what I want for you-or me for the record.)
To change your life, you’ve got to get out of your comfort zone and adopt strategies that have been proven to minimize anxiety. You can’t simply read about these strategies.
You have to add anxiety management strategies to your life.
Nothing you do is going to feel comfortable. Anxiety is a nasty beast. No matter which way you turn, it’s going to throw stones in your path.
But you have to keep moving forward.
If you don’t feel like being social, do it anyway. And if you feel like you’re going to have a panic attack, don’t give up on your obligations.
I know that’s not what you want to hear. However, it’s what you NEED to hear.
The only way out is through the storm. There may be an eye in the hurricane, but there will still be squalls behind it. But with each squall you endure, your life WILL move forward.
Today, I want to go back to the beginning. Write down where you want to be one, five, and seven years from now. This is your working guide as to what you want to accomplish.
Maybe you want to overcome social anxiety and build an active social life. Or perhaps you want to overcome a fear of flying. There is no right or wrong answer.
Put it all on paper or in a Word document. This is your first step to moving forward. Then, this week, we’ll talk about how to achieve your goals WITH anxiety in tow. (Sorry friends, it doesn’t go away. You’ve got to work with it.)
I know this post is harsh, but it’s here for a reason. I want to help you to move forward. Always remember that you’re not alone. I’m there with you.
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