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The Birds and the Bees

Bet you thought this post was going to be about hanky panky.

Nope, sorry. Guess again.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I’ve got a reality check for you today. (Side Note: Put on your thinking cap and get ready to look at life in a completely different manner.)

In life, we often assume that circumstances and events are going to conform to what we believe to be true. For example, we are automatically inclined to believe that a conversation about” the birds and the bees” will relate to sex.

In many situations, we are correct in our assumptions. However, we’re  incorrect more often than not.

This is because anxiety actually skews reality.

Think about something you recently worried about. Did the negative outcome that concerned you actually occur?

Chances are the answer is no.

You see, researchers have found that 85 percent of the things we worry about never take place. That’s a pretty hefty statistic.

As anxiety sufferers, we’re wired to worry. Day in and day out, we obsess over what might happen.

In the process, we develop a skewed view of life. We assume that planes will crash if we get on them (big one for me), sicknesses will take hold, and social situations will become disastrous.

You name it, we worry about it.

Each individual worry becomes a story that we believe is nonfiction. But in reality, much of what we tell ourselves is the exact opposite.

It’s a tall tale straight out of Pinocchio.  (In fact, I’m sure our noses would grow if they could.)

To combat this success-busting flaw, we’ve got to take the time to challenge these beliefs. Point blank. And quite frankly, there’s no getting around this concept.

Sure, you can go through life with flawed assumptions. However, this only holds you back. At every anxious turn, you miss out on fantastic opportunities.

The other option is to challenge your belief system. Will that plane really crash? Probably not. But if you skip a great trip because you assume that you’re a goner, you’ve missed out big time.

To make positive changes, I’ve found it helpful to write down my five biggest fears at any given time. (Remember that new fears can come at any hour of the day. As a result, it’s necessary to reflect on fears often.)

Next, write down the likelihood that what you fear will really happen. For example, experts say that you’re much more likely to croak from a bee sting than a plane crash.  In fact, Odyssey says you’re more likely to be smacked by a meteorite.

So in reality, you will probably be just fine. And hopefully, you’ll find humor in the process.

Finally, challenge your fears. If you’re scared to fly, do it anyway.

Yes, you’re going to feel massive discomfort. Your fingers will go numb and your heart will race. You’ll probably sweat like a pig too.

But think about how much better you’ll feel once you reach your destination.  You’ll see new, unexpected and exciting things. And most importantly, you’ll grow in the process.

The takeaway from this post is this:

Life won’t change until you challenge your fears and assumptions.  You’ve got to get on that horse and start riding.

It’s a big world out there. Make the most of it. Each and every day is a precious gift, so don’t let fear hold you back. Get your head in the game WITH anxiety in tow.

-Anxiety Girl

References:

https://books.google.com/books?id=kRdnf0P0M3AC&pg=PT24&dq=Robert+Leahy,+Ph.D.,+The+Worry+Cure+In+fact,+85+percent&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0CCkQ6AEwAGoVChMIttWJ4vS6xwIVSfI-Ch1b3Atp#v=onepage&q=Robert%20Leahy%2C%20Ph.D.%2C%20The%20Worry%20Cure%20In%20fact%2C%2085%20percent&f=false

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/21-things-more-likely-than-dying-in-plane-crash

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