Are you ready for a serious growth opportunity? (I hope so!) It’s time to get down, dirty and talk about building self worth.
(No laughing. This may sound silly, but it’s an investment in yourself.)
To fill you in, yesterday’s post was all about why you’re NOT your anxiety. As that post wrapped up, I promised you two more posts with some pretty exciting ways to build self worth.
Drum roll, please.
These fantastic therapeutic exercises are designed to help you pull yourself up by the bootstraps and soar. I want you to open your heart and soul to change because today is a big day. We’re going to start to learn to think differently.
You’ll need a journal, a little free time, and some nifty art supplies. Think scrapbooking with a spin. And remember to be gentle with yourself. Building self worth takes time.
Are you ready?
- The Anger Buster
For me, anger is a massive anxiety trigger. I get trapped in negative thinking loops, beating myself up over and over again.
This gives anxiety the perfect chance to grow. Really, it’s like adding fertilizer to a patch of weeds. No bueno!
I’m still devistated over the loss of that man I loved. So I decided to do a little research on how to release anger. Quite frankly, I need it right now.
This little ditty comes from Healthy Place. (FYI, Healthy Place is truly one of the best sites on the web to learn positive coping mechanisms.)
For this exercise, you’ll want to bring someone you’re upset with to mind. Not fun, I know. But trust me, it’s worth it.
Once you have selected a source of anger, grab your journal and get to work. Write about your anger. Why are you pissed? Yes, I said pissed-because you are!!!
Now ask yourself this question: How would letting go of anger and resentment make YOU feel better?
Your goal here is to let it all out. Go ahead, vent. It’s a great way to put anger in perspective.
Side Note: I’d share my example with you, but I don’t want to put my ex’s dirty laundry online. Love isn’t cruel. Instead, here are some fantastic exceprts from the example that Healthy Place gives:
“He didn’t even call me on my birthday, let alone congratulate me on my new job…Whenever I think of him I get so angry. He should know better, but he doesn’t and I have to accept that. I am going to try and remind myself that he’s never been supportive and that I am only hurting myself by expecting him to change. He may just never be able to be the brother that I want. It sucks and it’s not helping me to continue thinking about him.”
2. The Vision Board
I first learned about vision boards in my friend Buddah’s class. (Yes, her name is REALLY Buddah.) I had assumed that vision boards were too complex to figure out.
However, this is anything but true. All you need are magazines, a poster board, scissors, and tape or glue. You can make your vision board as fancy or simple as you want.
That said, I’d be doing you a disservice if I didn’t tell you that there has been a lot of debate about this exercise. Being a former journalist, I want you to know both sides of the story. So check out this article to show you the opposing perspective before you make a choice.
In my opinion, though, vision boards are brilliant. They take the anxious mind out of a place of rumination and into a place of action. Obviously I’m not a shrink. But for me, vision boards promote productive thinking as opposed to rumination about the past.
So how do you start your vision board?
The goal of this project is to figure out what you want out of life. The theory is that you can cocreate by putting your desires out to the universe. Yes, that might sound like magical thinking. But I think it’s pretty helpful as long as you stay in reality. I’m still studying the concept of manifestation, so I don’t quite have a full opinion on it yet.
To create your vision board, grab your fave magazines and start cutting out pics and passages that speak to you. You can even print out relevant quotes from books/speakers and cut and paste. Then make a collage on a poster board. Really, it’s a blast! Makes you feel like you’re a kid again.
Here’s a great article from The Huffington Post on how to get started. Trust me, this project is cool. It makes for a great motivator when anxiety and depression take hold. Turn on some tunes and make a night of it.
3. “Love, Love Me Do”
This one is simple. You’re going to take yourself on a date. But why the heck would you want to do this?
When it comes to anxiety and depression, we forget to take the time to love ourselves. (I’m 100 percent guilty on this one.) As I’ve said before, self worth can only come from yours truly.
So think about the things you love to do most. Maybe it’s working out on a Saturday afternoon, heading out for a cup of joe, or chilling out and catching up on your fave shows. Take yourself on a date to do something YOU ADORE.
(My date was an evening of Grey’s and HTGAWM. It was a little chilly outside, so I curled up with a blanket nearby. On a warmer day, I probably would have gotten a peddie.)
When you’re done, feel free to journal about how “me time” felt. Why did a date with yourself make you happy?
And remember that time with yours truly can feel scary. So don’t freak if you experienced anxiety at the same time. It happens to the best of us.
Now the ball is in your court. After all, building self worth is something that only YOU can do. Take the time to give these simple exercises a try. And have fun-WITH anxiety in tow!